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Hello, My name is Phebe (Karen) Beiser. I’m 74 and married to a woman, Cathy, who one year ago was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. I am her only caretaker right now. Have written poems & journalled about this, so far not on Substack.

I am brand new to writing in Substack — so far about the Election but soon to share more personal musings from my life.

I consider myself foremost a poet but co-authored a book with Rashma Kalsie in New Delhi, India. The book is The Buddha & the Bitch: 2 Women, 2 Worlds, 1 Practice (Hay House, New Delhi, c2018 with new and used copies available on Amazon). We tell the story of chatting via the internet, becoming friends in spite of our differences (she youngish, heterosexual, married, with a daughter/me oldish, lesbian, single at the time). Eventually I visited her (2013) and we travelled to South India to organize topics for this book we h inside us. The book tells about our journey from New Delhi to Pondicherry as well as our personal journeys as women writers, as spiritual beings, and inquisitive people. In 2018 I returned to do some promotion of the book and celebrate our success!

I am co-founder of the Ohio Lesbian Archives in Cincinnati, Ohio. Now in our 35th year, OLA is the only LGBTQ collection of newspapers, flyers, records of the former Crazy Ladies Bookstore, artwork, buttons, photographs, personal journals, and more—all centered on greater Cincinnati & the region. After seventeen years in a church basement, we moved to an historic building in Over the Rhine area downtown. For more info, https://ohiolesbianarchives.org.

I “own” that I am now an Elder. I lost two women close to me in 2019–a partner Janice and a best friend Bev. I have been dealing with their passings ever since. Grief and loss have become important topics as I age and grapple with the reality of death.

Dogs are my close companions as well as an ornery tabby cat. They lighten my life.

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Hello all! I am Shana, 70 years old, Blackfoot-German-Welsh ancestry. A Washington and Alaska person, the past 4 years I have been part of my Mom’s care team here in Texas hill country. I bought a tiny house and live blue in a red state. I write about trauma, resilience, and whatever is front and center in my life — most recently a trip to French Polynesia. I have two websites about my trauma healing work: organizationaltraumaandhealing.com and thetorchcollective.org. My Substack is Healing Circles. Very happy to have found you!

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Just found this with reference to Elderstack! So cool! Think you already know me… I am 80 this year, I live in Southwest Michigan, I am a widow going on eleven years, have a guy friend, have five grandkids… all young adults, one of whom is gay. I write about the bits and pieces of life as I turned eighty, now as I continue growing along. I write about being active is the most important thing we can do to keep youthful and engaged no matter what our age! I’m forever a Pollyanna but adamant … don’t call me honey! Congrats to you, dear Debbie on having such a following… I had no idea about your podcasts! I will be there! Much love! ☺️🫶

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Hi Debbie, I love what you're doing here. I have found Substack to be a fun and inspiring place to be at age 62. Wonderful to connect with writers of all ages here.

I write a Substack called Letters From Turkey Town, about love, grief and hope. I live in an RV and travel the US full-time. https://tinahedin.substack.com

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love your stack; meant to include!

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Good Morning Debbie, and well met.

I'm a sort-of retired high school English teacher (sometimes I sub), new to substack. I'm 66 with a b-day coming in Feb. I'm young and healthy and hope to continue in this vein. But I've noticed that somewhere, I crossed over into elderhood. My husband is ten years older than I and is aging differently and with more physical difficulty than I am. Not sure why. I sing in a Threshold Choir.

I'm a died-in-the-wool femininst, a student of archetypal psychology (master's degree) and I write a Substack called Modern Mythology, where I look at what's happeining now through an archetypal lens, because everything old is new again. Actually, nothing is old; we've seen it all before. It simply changes expression a little. The moment I saw this community a ping of recognition sparked in my heart: this is for me.

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Hi Debbie and thank you for creating this space to connect with [B]old women who are courageously sharing our wisdom and voices at a time when we are not encouraged to do so. (Especially these days.) I'm turning 66 on November 30 and at the threshold of retiring from my career as a marketing communications writer. I took a detour 17 years ago from the for-profit world to work at a public university (from which I'm soon retiring) and to help other nonprofits raise more money for their missions. My Substack "This Much is True" is newly launched. I consider it my "sandbox" right now; a place to play and explore my emerging interests and newfound role as an elder with some time on her hands and something to say. I'm so excited by the prospect of joining a community of women who are finding, refining, and expressing their voices and "walking" beside each other during this chapter of our lives.

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Betsy, can't wait to check out This Much Is True https://betsycraz.substack.com/

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Turning 65 before the year ends. I write in an eco feminist tone about making the feminine visible as well Place. I believe we way we treat the earth and place often reflects patriarchy and the way women's bodies are valued. I work part time as a mental health doc in Australia. Currently I’m otherwise often in Kyoto Japan where my husband and I having a later life adventure after somewhat sort of impulsively buying a house one year ago. Pre-covid I travelled frequently to Paris and ran a women’s tour based around mindful-sensory experiences and the inner journey of midlife. Kyoto is about exploring aging and the spiritual preparation necessary to age and die (I THINK! ) I recently started on substack and would love to build more community here. BOLD is a great word for this stage. Bucket list. Finish and publish my books soon. Being poly creative and ADD its taken too long!

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Bernadette, wonderful to hear from you. We are taking our first trip to Japan next month!

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Thank you for this community:) travel to Japan is exciting. It;s such a gorgeous complex culture. Look forward to hearing of your adventures!

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Newbie here. Love meeting BOLD ladies. I'm a writer and educational consultant in the Boston area. I have 3 launched kids. On my website, I blog on living the creative life through hard times. May venture into Substack newsletter but for now, I'm enjoying the fantastic writing/writers/creatives I have found here. I'm always looking for wise elder role models.

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Hi Debbie and all - I'm Marcia (Mar-see-uh) with accent on the first syllable please. :) Yes, I have one of those names that is often pronounced in different ways. I won't be offended if you use one of those I consider incorrect, but I do prefer the one I outlined above.

I am 73 and have been writing since I was very young. I've lived a few degrees off the equator, in Papua New Guinea, and a few kilometers from the Arctic Circle, in Dawson City Yukon, but currently live in Alberta Canada, with my husband of 44 years and a lovely Burnedoodle named Livy.

I'm fairly new to Substack, having begun about a year ago, after Mailchip shut down my newsletter due to something I did not do and was not allowed to rectify. Sigh.

I post a newsletter about my writing and other life adventures as well as snippets of things, excerpts from my upcoming writer's memoir, inspirational meditations, etc. I've just begun posting Sunday Snipits - short bursts, some behind the paywall.

I have about 12 books on Amazon now, an ecclectic mix of Christian devotionals, middle-grade fantasy novels, and contemporary novels for adults. I recently published a children's book, Merrigold's Very Best Home, which has been a delightful journey.

I look forward to "meeting" everyone here. Thanks for this opportunity! :)

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Hello everyone! Thanks, Debbie, for this generous invitation to be among so many wise women elders.

I'm Amy with the publication Living in 3D: Divorce, Dementia and Destiny, launched Oct 2023, about a journey both personal and universal: the way in which we navigate big changes in our lives, especially when they come later in life.

In my case, the journey has been about navigating gray divorce and dementia caregiving while fiercely holding onto my destiny: the belief that this is not where my story ends. I was 62 when I made the decision to leave my 33-year marriage and within a month of that decision, I suddenly became the full-time sole live-in caregiver for my mother with advancing dementia.

That was two years ago. Through my own hard-won inner work and standing up for myself, and being met by my ex with a similar willingness not to burn everything down, we had an amicable divorce, which I have written about. My mother died in April, and so my caregiving, as it inevitably would, ended, and grief has become a new focus of my writing.

Two years into these big life changes, I've changed and evolved in ways I could scarcely predict and so my newsletter is undergoing a pivot that I am still feeling into--the divorce and dementia caregiving that were so wrenching are receding into the background and Destiny is taking center stage.

I'm a native New Yorker, live in Venice, Florida but next March I'm moving to Barcelona, Spain. Both my dual-national daughters live in Europe (one in Barcelona, the other in Paris) given their half-Swedish heritage through their dad. And I feel a yearning to return to Europe where I lived for 22 years.

On my bucket list: publishing a novel. I have one out to agents now and my fourth is underway. At 64, never too late is my mantra: if not now, when? Happy to be among other [B]old women who feel the same way!

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Hello! And thank you for this opportunity to introduce myself and my publication.

I'm Allie from Allie Rambles. I recently realized that I was still struggling mentally with life in my middle years. I came to the conclusion that I have been in a Midlife Crisis that I never addressed back in 2015.

For the last 9 years I believed I was making rational and thoughtful decisions with my life. I was living on my own successfully after my divorce, I made great strides in healing the relationships with my kids (now 26 and 24) and I was living my dreams of travel and spiritual awakening. But I was still not strong.

In these last 4 years I have made bad decision after bad decision until I finally hit bottom. At 52 I'm living with my mom, unemployed, no savings, no vehicle and perimenopause is kicking my ass.

I'm not looking for pity, I did this. But I'm looking for community. I LOVE that there is a thriving midlife community here on Substack that I can't wait to explore.

I just published my first post October 10 (yesterday) introducing myself : https://substack.com/home/post/p-150071990?source=queue

I'd love to have you come by and comment so I can find others like me that may struggle BUT thrive at midlife.

Where I write about my Midlife Adventures : https://allierambles.substack.com/

Have a fantastic day!

~Allie

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Welcome, Allie! Looks like your aiming to revise the next chapters of your life.

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I’m 77, living in San Diego with my partner Erika. i’ve written several nonfiction books on genealogy and history. In 2020 I pitched a successful idea for writing a book that did a mashup of ancestors and Tarot. Following the publication of Ancestral Tarot, I wrote Ancestral Grimoire. Those were followed by two decks, Ancestral Magick Oracle and the Ofrenda (offering) Oracle. The latter is based on the imagery found during Dia de los Muertos. (Day of the Dead).

I’ve been on Substack for over a year (The Hidden Path) writing about ancestral work, supernatural experiences, and other strange occurrences. I think I came by my love of working with the Beloved Dead naturally as my mom was psychic and my grandparents attended seances back in the 1920’s.

In addition to my ‘regular’ posts, twice a month I write a Divination Fun challenge that everyone is invited to do. My Substack is https://nancyhendrickson.substack.com

I’m an avid amateur iphonographer and love exploring historic sites here in the west as the ghosts are quite chatty.

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I read your post, https://nancyhendrickson.substack.com/p/if-youre-curious.

The topics you discuss are new to me but fascinating so I did subscribe (all I can do is free for now). What caught my eye the most was your interest in the ancient Ancestral Puebloan ruins. I live in northern Arizona and recently became very interested in the history of the Puebloan peoples. I've visited many locations here and in other states. I look forward to reading your content.

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Hi and thank you! I appreciate the invitation to connect with what sounds like an interesting community. I am new, and not quite yet getting the hang of Substack.

I'm Corky Parker, 69 before the year is out. I live/work/volunteer as expedition manager/cook on a science research vessel in remote Alaskan wilderness for half the year. The other half I'm in the small towns of Port Townsend and Nordland, on Washington's Marrowstone island.

Before Hurricane Maria, I owned La Finca Caribe, a rustic/offbeat inn on Vieques Island, Puerto Rico, and ran a creative/film team with my first husband in Seattle during the grunge/tech boom years. I’ve been widowed, divorced, raised three remarkable kids, made money (briefly), and gone bankrupt. I may have just partnered with the love of my life...but I've learned ya just never know. Or, even if you do, things happen.

I wrote and illustrated an award-winning memoir, LA FINCA, Love, Loss, and Laundry on a Small Puerto Rican Island (available as book or audiobook anywhere), published by Trinity University Press three years ago, about a lot of this. Writng and designing my book were tremendously rewarding. Publishing and the onus of marketing it, however, was something less than that. Thus, because I can't seem to not write, I write on Substack now. My book was born out of almost ancient blog posts. I'm not sure if i will organize these current missives into another book, or not.

Folks seem to like my writing. I am honored -- deeply --that they do. I hear from readers that they like to "live vicariously" through me. I ponder that a lot, and would love to be an inspiration for them to live out their own dreams. The connections I make through writing are my reward now. They remind me of my innkeeping days. Above all, writing helps me figure things out -- whether it's loss or love, farming or sailing, overcoming fear, ADD, or online dating. LIke so many others I see here, i love getting/being "old". I've never been happier, or more clear --even if it's only about my own confusion and gratitude. Thanks all, corky

I call my home here, Notes from the Bunkhouse https://corkyparker.substack.com/

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I’m Jean-Anne Taru Fisher, a soon-to-be 82-year-old Crone. I go by the name Taru Fisher because Taru is short for Ma Premtaru, a name given to me by a spiritual master in India in 1977. It means Tree of Love, and I resonate strongly with that image, especially of a tree. My maiden name was Ogletree, and my favorite pastime as a child was roaming about in the tree-lined creek areas of the San Francisco Bay Area, where I could be found hugging them from time to time.

My Substack is about my journey into Crone-hood as well as my knowledge of health and wellness for aging consciously and visibly. Occasionally, I write about NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming) and share simple yet life-changing processes. Here’s the link to my Substack About page: https://tarufisher.substack.com/about

I started writing sporadically on Substack on August 21, 2023. I was also still sending out a weekly Love-Letter from The Confident, Quirky Crone from my Coaches Console, which I was focusing on. On September 1 of this year, I imported all my Subscribers to Substack to have all my eggs in one basket and simplify my life. So far, dealing with the tech involved in this has been far from simple! My website has been down since August 28, so I have another task now. I’ll tackle that next.

I have lived in Rio Rancho, New Mexico, since 2017. However, it’s my third time living in NM, and I won’t be leaving again. It truly is the Land of Enchantment, and if it grabs you, it’s nearly impossible for you to leave it.

I have a wonderful husband of 37 years, James Bell, my 4th and the one who is a keeper. I’ve had a bout of illness since the end of July, and he’s been so supportive and present for me. He’s dealing with his own set of three dangerous medical conditions and is also the face of our 20-year-old business, Alive! Fitness Studio. He can only work two days a week now, but he’s doing quite well.

The only thing on my bucket list is taking a trip back to California, where I was born and where my sons live. I keep hoping they’ll also end up here, but that’s highly unlikely.

I’ve been told for many years I should write a book about my life, but until 2023, I never believed I was capable of doing that. Then, I suddenly felt an unquenchable desire to write, so I started my first newsletter. I recently found a document I started while doing distance learning with DePaul University 20 years ago. It’s called a Learning Autobiography and is about my life up until then. I’ve decided to use it, expand it to the present day, and start serializing it for my Substack.

I’m excited to be here with all of you Writers!

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Hi, I’m Sacha Cohen, 55. I remember Debbie from the earliest days of the web. I can’t exactly remember how we were connected but it’s cool to be reconnected here. I write A Good Vintage, Goodvintage.substack.com, all about France and midlife aspirations. I live in Arlington, Virginia with my husband. As for a bucket list item? I’d like to spend a few months exploring national parks in the US & Canada. Banff and Glacier National Park are high on the list!

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Hi Sacha, not sure I can remember either (about how we connected in the early days of the Web). But I lived in DC for 30-plus years, and you are in VA. So maybe... ?

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I'm Stella Fosse, age 70, empowering women past midlife through creativity. I write fiction with vivid older women main characters, and I write books that encourage other Women of a Certain Age to write their own vivid stories. I'm also a biologist and graduated from a 35-year career in biotechnology. I blog about older women's health as well as creativity and beauty. Find me here on Substack and also at www.stellafosse.com, where I also feature guest blogs by other women authors over fifty. Cheers!

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yay! welcome Stella!

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Thanks Debbie! We crones are powerful together!

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